We need to be kind to the people we love; we need to be kind to everybody. One thing that is not kind, that everybody needs to work on, is speaking kindly.
Your are probably thinking, “Well, I talk fairly kind to everybody.” What you might not realize is how to talk to the people you love. Can you go 24 hours without saying something unkind or negative about anybody? If so, then you are doing a good job, if not, you have lost control of your tongue and are not saying enough loving things about the people you love. I would suggest getting a poster and writing a list of all the people you love, and all the things you like about them. Whenever you catch yourself about to say something not very nice about somebody, go and look at the list.